Revealing the Orphan Heart, part 2
God has called us to walk in unity.
Pursue His presence
Genuine love and affection
God is a perfect Father
Trinity is a family
We were created from this patten
Sin separated us
The Son made a way
Redeemed as sons and daughters
We belong in His family
2 Corinthians 6:18 [NLT], And I will be your Father, and you will be my sons and daughters, says the Lord Almighty.
"How deep that Orphan Heart took root in our hearts was determined by how we were raised."
There is no such thing as a perfect parent.
Basic needs of a child...
Feel physically and emotionally safe
Unconditionally accepted and loved
Enjoyed and cherished
Praised and affirmed
Self-esteem and value
Reassured as special
A gift from God
"It is not enough for a parent to have loving feelings for their kids, those feelings must be communicated and expressed in a way that is meaningful to the child."
Types of fathers...
Stable and Loving
"The role that a FATHER plays in our lives is extremely important, because it is his responsibility to impart our identity, call out our value and worth, to speak into our destiny, to cultivate our talents and abilities. It is his responsibility to lead us into our faith and to mold/shape our courage for life's challenges! He is the protector of our innocence and purity. He provides us with a sense of belonging. It is his responsibility to affirm us by telling us that we have what it takes...our lives mean something...that we can make a difference...that we can become who God has called us to be."
Psalm 127:4 [NLT], Children born to a young man are like arrows in a warrior's hands.
A mother shows love through...
Tone of Voice
Nurture; "to cause something to come forth."
"As our mom's nurtured us as children they imparted compassion, tenderness, empathy, affection, comfort, and intimacy. Their nurturing taught us how to have faith in others and gave us the ability to trust others when they expressed their love towards us. Our mom's taught us how to commune and connect with others, to bond with them beyond surface level, to show vulnerability, to know and to be known emotionally. The taught us how to trust relationships when they held us, cuddled us and cared for us."
Psalm 22:9 [NIV], Yet you brought me out of the womb; you made me trust in you, even at my mother's breast.
God is a master whom they must appease
can't trust anyone
relate to God through the law
short end of the stick
struggle with self-rejection
rarely feel at peace
don't know how to rest
fear of trusting, abandonment, and intimacy
addicted to the approval of man
serve to impress God
perform out of duty
strive for purity to win favor and avoid judgment
feel guilty and shameful
escape life thru counterfeit affections
relate to others thru competition, rivalry, or jealous
in conflict resort to accusation and exposure of people's faults
see authority as a source of pain
guarded and conditional in their expressions of love
make others perform for their love
struggle with giving and receiving love
view God's presence as distant and conditional
slaves to fear and mistrust
view themselves as servants/slaves, not a child of God
desire to be seen as spiritually mature
fear the future because they are unsure of their inheritance in the Kingdom
Where do we go from here?
"The first step in Repositioning our hearts to Sonship is through forgiveness."
Luke 23:34 [NLT], "Father, forgive them, for they don't know what they are doing."