“Gods Design” Marriage
“God’s Design”
“Reclaiming God’s Design for Marriage”
“It’s impossible for us to lose sight of our God-given design as men and women, without also losing sight of His design for marriage along the way.”
Jeremiah 6:16 (NIV) This is what the Lord says: “Stand at the crossroads and look; ask for the ancient paths, ask where the good way is, and walk in it, and you will find rest for your souls.”
Ephesians 5:15-33 (NLT) So be careful how you live. Don’t live like fools, but like those who are wise. 16 Make the most of every opportunity in these evil days. 17 Don’t act thoughtlessly, but understand what the Lord wants you to do. 21 And further, submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. 22 For wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23 For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of His body, the church. 24 As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything. 25 For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up His life for her 26 to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word. 27 He did this to present her to Himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without fault. 28 In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man who loves his wife actually shows love for himself. 29 No one hates his own body but feeds and cares for it, just as Christ cares for the church. 30 And we are members of His body. 31 As the Scriptures say, “A man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.” 32 This is a great mystery, but it is an illustration of the way Christ and the church are one. 33 So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
Ephesians 5:31 (NLT) As the Scriptures say, “A man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.”
From singleness to marriage:
1. A man establishes responsibility
2. He leaves his parents’ home
3. He marries a woman
4. Then the two become one flesh
“Marriage is a binding covenant before God, exclusively between one man and one woman, for a lifetime.”
Ephesians 5:21 (NLT) And further, submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
Philippians 2:3-4 (NIV) Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, 4 not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.
Ephesians 5:22-24 (NLT) For wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23 For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of his body, the church. 24 As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything.
Headship is not…
-being the boss or dictator
-exercising harsh or controlling authority
-being independent, selfish, or disengaged
-“This is my house, and what I say goes.”
Headship looks like…
-leading in a sacrificial way, as we follow the example of Christ
-serving your wife by putting her needs and well-being ahead of your own comfort
-helping her feel safe, secure, and deeply loved
-listening to her heart and respecting her thoughts and ideas
-protecting and providing for her—not just materially, but emotionally and spiritually
-praying for her
Wife —18%
Child — 22%
Husband — 94%
Ephesians 5:24 (NLT) As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything.
Submission is not…
-feeling inferior or lesser in value
-being suppressed or oppressed
-being controlled or silenced
-denying God-given talents, abilities, or calling
-submitting to sin, abuse, or anything contrary to the Bible
-putting your husband’s will above God’s
-submitting until you disagree
-all women submitting to all men
Submission looks like…
-an act of obedience to Christ
-in an invitation to be led, not a burden to bear
-knowing when to speak and when to trust
-respecting his decisions and supporting his leadership
-allowing him to lead spiritually
-encouraging and affirming him, not criticizing him
-partnering together on shared goals and family decisions
-extending grace and forgiveness
-practicing patience
Ephesians 5:33 (NLT) So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
“God has designed marriage for the man to be the loving head of the family. And for the woman to be a respectful helper.”
A woman needs:
1. Affection
2. Conversation
3. Honesty and Openness
4. Financial Support
5. Family Commitment
1 Peter 3:7 (NLT) In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together.
A man needs:
1. Sexual Fulfillment
2. Recreational Companionship
3. Attractive Spouse
4. Domestic Support
5. Admiration
"You are God's gift to your husband. He equipped you with everything you need to meet his needs. Just as you are to honor and respect him, you should also seek to meet his physical need for sex."
"First of all, when you place priority on your sex life, you are telling your husband that his needs are important to you. You are also saying that you approve of his manhood. When a woman refuses to have sex night after night, she is not just refusing sex, she is rejecting her husband. He does not feel wanted or loved by you when you continually turn him away. Your love acted out will give him the confidence he needs to be a godly husband and father."
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